I’m a bad person. A friend just called me crying because her boyfriend had broken up with her. She said she didn’t know who else to call, and I failed her by being totally useless. I didn’t know what to say at all (plus she was crying so hard that at some points I couldn’t really tell what she was saying, so I might’ve ended up giving wrong responses) I tried to give some cheering up advice that probably added zero value.
Sigh. How depressing. What does one say in such a situation? On one hand I’m really sad for her because I know how much she cares about him. On the other hand, I think it’s probably a good thing considering how unhappy they’ve both been. Which made it even harder to say something meaningful, so all I ended up being able to say was It’ll be ok.
Then I hung up after 8.5 minutes. Well, I didn’t hang up, she made the move to hang up and I didn’t really object. Was I supposed to object? Should I really let her cry it out on her own over the weekend? Should I have been more insistent about hanging out tomorrow so she wouldn’t spend it moping at home? Or maybe what she really needs is to cry it out of her system and move on with life?
It’s a really crappy feeling wanting to help and not being able to do a thing =(
